Saturday, October 14, 2006

Dealing with anger

What is anger?
Anger is a natural,usual human emotion which can be destructive to the person who expresses it and the person who receives it.It can even spoil your personal relationships.

Ways to deal with anger
There are three ways to deal your anger.They are

  1. Expressing
  2. Suppressing
  3. calming


Expressing
Expressing your anger can be done in two ways.one is the natural aggressive way.The other is non-aggressive way.Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive—not aggressive—manner is the healthiest way to express anger.

Suppressing
Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. The danger in this type of response is that if it isn't allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward—on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, or depression.

Unexpressed anger can create other problems. It can lead to pathological expressions of anger, such as passive-aggressive behavior (getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on) or a personality that seems perpetually cynical and hostile. People who are constantly putting others down, criticizing everything, and making cynical comments haven't learned how to constructively express their anger. Not surprisingly, they aren't likely to have many successful relationships.

Calming
Finally, you can calm down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses, taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let the feelings subside.

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